Canadian Centre for Men and Families
York Region

Canadian Centre for Men and Families
York Region

Programs

Counselling

We cover a range of individual and family issues, including depression, anxiety, relationship problems, separation/divorce, marriage counselling, social isolation, self-esteem, abuse and trauma. Pay what you can.

Whether you are looking for solutions to everyday problems in your marriage, or you are wondering how you got to the way things are with your partner, getting a neutral and non-judgmental perspective can help discover the path to renewed intimacy. We can assist with a space and guide for moving forward in your relationship.

Delivered in a safe, nonjudgmental space, this gender inclusive course will provide adults of all genders with tools to help them regulating thoughts and emotions that lead to anger in the context of relational interactions. This is a supportive alternative to meet the court requirements when ordered to complete an Anger Management Program. The focus is clinical and not critical, using an evidence based cognitive behavioural therapy, building support to change from a trauma informed anti-oppressive practice and facilitated by an experienced Registered Social Worker. A certificate of completion will be provided. At end of this program you will have gained competency in the following areas:

1.    Abuse behavior inventory

2.    Choose to change and support to change network

3.    Identifying anger ladder

4.    Identifying own and partner’s triggers

5.    Creating a safety plan

6.    Learning how and when to use of time out/cease fire

7.    Learning how trauma can affect your tolerance

8.    Distress tolerance 

9.    Learning how to manage thoughts, feelings and behaviours

10.  Creating a self-care and wellness plan to manage stress

11.  Creating an action plan of changes you are making 

12.  Relationship & conflict resolution

To register, please contact york@menandfamilies.org

Group Support

This program provides a safe and confidential space where men can access collective wisdom based on the lived experiences of men just like them. In addition to providing camaraderie and emotional support, common topics are discussed and the brotherhood of members will help you explore solutions to your own challenges. Common concerns that come up include challenges due to separation and divorce, shared parenting, parental alienation, domestic abuse, and other similar issues.

We understand that abuse often has a unique look for men. If you’ve said to yourself, “this just doesn’t feel right” or have friends or family been concerned about things you’ve told them…then let’s talk.

  • Have you felt manipulated or diminished by your intimate partner?
  • Feel like you have no access to your own, or shared finances?
  • Feel obligated to stay in a bad situation because of religious or cultural expectations?
  • What about feeling isolated from friends or family by your significant other?
  • Were you coerced to take part in sex acts without full consent or talk about birth control?
  • Have you been physically attacked by your partner…or by someone encouraged to do so by your partner?

CCMF understands that men who have been in abusive relationships need a non-judgmental and compassionate space to begin the process of healing.

We recognize that it’s difficult for men who have experienced family or relationship violence/abuse to find the assistance and services that they need.

We know that it takes great courage for men to accept that they need assistance and to persevere until they can find that support.

CCMF York is here for you.

We are proud to offer this 13-week recovery program, offered in a peer-support format. It is designed to serve  all male identified people who are victims of domestic violence (DV), domestic abuse (DA), and/or intimate partner violence (IPV).

This program is the first of its kind in Canada and offers positive, affirming and confidential support dedicated to men and men’s experience of domestic abuse. It will help you to acquire the skills, coping strategies, and resources to get you through this difficult time.

Take important first steps in the trauma recovery process to heal and regain control in your life…to become empowered again.

Our highest priority is ensuring the group environment is compassionate for all men attending regardless of sexual orientation, identification, religion, race, ethnicity, background or experiences.

Join us to share your experiences and meet others who understand that piece of you…because they’re on the same path.

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Every Thursday at 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm

Practical Resources and Shared Experience (for all survivors of false allegations and their loved ones)

Fee: No charge

The Canadian Centre for Men and Families (CCMF), operating under the governance of its parent organization, the registered charity Canadian Association for Equality (CAFE), is proud to offer an important new service for Survivors of False Allegations (SOFA). This program has been built in response to overwhelming client demand.

Program Objectives:

To provide a welcoming and non-judgmental environment that enables those who have been falsely accused or wrongfully convicted of domestic violence or sexual abuse, or a combination of both, to discuss their experience, share successes and failures within the criminal justice process, and address the unique emotional struggles that result from false accusations and wrongful convictions.

In-Take, Eligibility and Assessment:

A Client/Program Manager liaison will conduct an Intake Assessment that measures the probability of factual innocence. Factual innocence is demonstrated when the available evidence does not reasonably support a conclusion that the person charged has committed the offense.

In order for us to better understand your individual circumstances and the context, every individual who is currently facing an allegation or conviction of a criminal offense, or who is likely to soon find him or herself facing an allegation or conviction of a criminal offense, must undergo the SOFA Assessment process. Any individual seeking support for a loved one who is is currently facing an allegation or conviction of a criminal offense, or who is likely to soon find him or herself facing an allegation or conviction of a criminal offense, must undergo the SOFA Assessment process. The determination of whether an individual must undergo an Assessment shall be at the sole discretion of the agency’s Executive Director or his/her designate. The agency reserves the right to refuse service to individuals at its unique and sole discretion, including for the reason of an individual refusing to undergo this assessment, provided refusal of service does not violate the law.

Client Types:

– Those that have not been convicted in a criminal court of law
– Those that have been convicted in a criminal court of law
– Those who are seeking case advocacy for any of the following: media engagement, private prosecution, filing complaints to investigative bodies, referrals to innocence projects or other outside legal counsel
– Loved ones who seek resources alongside the attending falsely accused or wrongfully convicted individual
– Loved ones who seek resources in lieu of or on behalf of the incarcerated falsely accused or wrongfully convicted individual

Support Types:

1. Personal/Social Support
2. Practical Resources & Shared Experience
3. Case Advocacy

Program Services Detailed Break-Down:

1. Contact and intake:

SOFA hotline and email address
Assessment interview
Referral to in-house and/or linked agencies / supports.

2. Practical Resources:

Information library.
In-house and linked external agencies
Shared experience group meetings with other SOFAs and their supporters:

3. Personal/Social Supports:

To provide personal support for coping with the overwhelming stresses, and the extremely difficult life challenges, faced by those who are falsely accused or wrongfully convicted, and their supporters.
Individual counselling
Peer support groups

4. Case Advocacy

5. Other appropriate supports/projects.

Secondary Objectives:

To collect data for the purposes of program development and evidence-based reporting on:
– Frequency of Client Types that request our services
– Support Type that is most often requested and attended
– Specific resources or linked supports that are most often requested
– Common denominators in causes of false accusation and/or wrongful conviction across all client cases
– Data specific to case advocacy

Survivors of False Allegations Program Policies

Zero Tolerance Policy

The Survivors of False Accusations (SOFA) program exists to support individuals falsely accused or wrongly convicted of domestic violence, or sex crimes – historical or recent.
We have a zero tolerance for abuse of any kind, and has always condemned those who abuse or have abused children or adults.
SOFA takes its obligations to provide services seriously. It and its volunteers shall operate and conduct themselves in a professional manner. We require prospective applicants to demonstrate that they are factually innocent of any allegations of abuse that have been made against them.

Eligibility

4. We have zero tolerance, and as such SOFA serves only those it considers to be factually innocent.
5. The factually innocent may present themselves to us regardless of their status within the criminal justice system. Factual innocence is demonstrated when the available evidence does not reasonably support a conclusion that the person charged has committed the offense. When determining eligibility, SOFA’s assessment of factual innocence is made independently of any civil or criminal decisions.
6. While SOFA recognizes the fundamental principle of innocent until proven guilty that is embedded within the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms, we reserve the right to refuse those that can’t demonstrate factual innocence even if they haven’t been convicted. On the other hand, while one could argue that the decisions of courts should be respected, judges have often acknowledged that credibility and reliability judgments are complex and subjective. SOFA recognizes that each year too many people are found guilty in our Courts that are indeed factually innocent and are deserving of support. There would be no need for appeal courts, the Criminal Conviction Review Group or Innocence projects if wrongful convictions never occurred. The Attorney General of Canada previously issued a Directive for Prevention of Wrongful Convictions acknowledging the following contributing factors in wrongful convictions: tunnel vision, incomplete disclosure, eyewitness misidentification, false confessions, false accusations or perjury, guilty pleas, in-custody informers, forensic evidence and expert testimony, DNA evidence, and conduct of police and counsel.

Intake Assessment

7. Each individual that reaches out to SOFA seeking support will have to agree to undergo an Intake Assessment conducted by a SOFA Client/Program Manager liaison before admission to the program.
8. SOFA has designed a tiered Intake Assessment process tailored for an individual’s circumstance, whether they have been charged, convicted or acquitted.
9. In the event a charged client moves to a convicted status during the course of their membership and they continue to attend support groups or seek case advocacy, we will subsequently conduct the appropriate Intake Assessment tier re-evaluating their eligibility.
10. An Intake Assessment will also apply to loved ones who seek membership in lieu of or on behalf of the incarcerated falsely accused or wrongfully convicted individual.
11. The Client/Program Manager liaison may make enquiries and ask difficult questions of prospective members during the assessment process.

Risk Considerations

12. SOFA will immediately withdraw support, independent of any criminal process, should we discover an applicant or member is factually guilty of domestic violence or sex crimes.
13. In many respects our Intake Assessment can be considered more rigorous than those used by professionals working in the criminal justice system. For example, social workers, probation/parole officers and other correctional facility workers are required to provide a service without seeking to make distinctions between those found guilty in a court of law as to whether or not they may be factually innocent. Whereas SOFA only provides services for the falsely accused or wrongfully convicted individual who meets our eligibility requirements for factual innocence.
14. Where client cases are subject to publication bans, the SOFA Client/Program Manager, facilitator and liaisons shall respect the laws governing publication bans pursuant to Section 486.4 of the Criminal Code.
16. The SOFA program is governed by CAFE’s Privacy Policy, Code of Conduct and the Canadian Centre for Men and Families’ (CCMF) Confidentiality Agreement.
17. The SOFA program does not provide access to, or admit anyone under the age of 18.

Shelter

Legal

Legal aid certificates will be issued to clients who have experienced domestic abuse and have financial needs.

Every Tuesday – 7:00 pm to 9:00 pm.

The legal clinic provides you an opportunity to interact with our legal team and get advice and support.

Fee: No charge. We aim to ensure income level is not a barrier to participation in any of our programs.

The Canadian Centre for Men and Families Legal Assistance Clinic will be geared at legal problems typically faced by men or areas where men may be subject to discrimination, including:
– family law
– criminal law
– human rights law
– employment law

Our legal clinic will provide you with resources, tools and information to assist you in navigating the legal system. Legal resources will be provided in group setting as well as one on one with a lawyer where circumstances allow.

You’ll be able to share your situation with others who have gone through the system and discuss your matter in a welcoming group setting. This group is especially useful to those who are self-representing, in low-income situations or for people looking for general legal advice.

The legal clinic will not provide you with legal representation, nor is it a substitute for hiring a lawyer.

Unravelling a marriage is a complicated process. Our volunteer Family Mediator is on hand to help support you in navigating the Family Law system. You will receive a free, 1 hour information session in which you will receive guidance about best approaches to navigating the legal challenges attached to family breakdown, including referrals to other resources that could be helpful. Please note that we do not offer legal representation or legal advice; your CCMF Family Law System Navigator is here to give information and support.

“Family Mediation is a process whereby separating couples have the option of resolving all issues relating to children, assets, etc. stemming from the end of a marriage or common law union.  An Accredited Family Mediator is trained to facilitate a conversation between the spouses in an effort towards bringing the separating spouses to agreement.  Importantly, Family Mediation can completely replace the court process if the parties resolve their matter through Family Mediation.  An important role of the family mediator is to remain neutral and non-judgmental of either mediating party.  At the onset of the family mediation process, the family mediator wills screen each spouse to ensure they are not subject to duress or any influence that would cause risk to their, or their children’s well-being or safety.  The mediation process is completely voluntary and either party may opt out at any time at their sole discretion.  Province wide, according to the Ministry of the Attorney General, approximately 3 out of 4 family mediations are either partially or entirely successful.  The process by which Family Mediation is delivered is as follows: 

 

  1. Information Session (Consultation):  Potential clients can schedule a free 30 minute confidential consultation to learn about family mediation and whether it may be a fit for them.  Each spouse attends the consultation individually.  This is an opportunity to understand just what family mediation is and how it differs from the more adversarial and costly court process.  Prospective clients can ask questions and walk away informed on mediation and how it may help resolve their matter.     

 

  1. Proceed with Family Mediation:  If both spouses agree to proceed, their mediator will forward an agreement to mediate and the mediation process can begin once a signed retainer is in place.  Thereafter, the initial step is to schedule confidential individual screening sessions with each spouse.  Each mediation session is typically scheduled in 2 to 3 hour intervals depending on client preferences and availability.  In most cases, mediation of a Parenting Plan may commence immediately.  If financial issues are also being addressed, the mediator will require financial disclosure from each spouse in advance of the mediation session.  Your mediator will prepare a financial statement showing the standing of each spouse with respect to equalization of property, child support, and spousal support, if applicable.      

 

  1. Mediation Sessions:  During the mediation phase, the parties will engage in a facilitated conversation with their mediator.  The role of a mediator is to assist parties in communicating with each other.  Ideally, couples will be in the presence of each other with their mediator.  However, in extreme high conflict situations the mediator may require that each session will occur by shuttling back and forth between each spouse individually.   

 

  1. Finality:  If there is partial or full settlement on the issues, the mediator will draft a Memorandum of Understanding (“MOU”).  Importantly, this document reflects the terms of agreement between the spouses.  However, it is not legally binding.  At this point the spouses are strongly urged to seek legal advice from a Family Law Lawyer to have the terms incorporated into a Separation Agreement, which may also be entered with the court and become enforceable.   

Webinars

To register for any webinars please contact york@menandfamilies.org

This free webinar is designed for social services and mental health frontline workers and will cover the following areas:

Prevalence (including in LGTBQ community); directionality; barriers for help seeking and how to minimize such barriers; impact on the children; typologies of intimate partner violence and available services at CCMF. If you wish to be invited to the next webinar or ask for this webinar to be presented to  your agency, please email york@menandfamilies.org. A modified version is also available for highschool students.

This free police training webinar focuses on how to better support male victims of intimate partner violence and has been created by two academic experts in this area: Dr. Alexandra Lysova (Associate Professor, Department of Criminology, Simon Fraser University) and Dr. Denise Hines (Associate Professor, Department of Social Work, George Mason University). The webinar is in three modules which can be delivered and viewed individually and include:

1. Prevalence, types and help seeking

2. Legal/Administrative abuse and bidirectionality of abuse.

3. Police interactions with male victims

To register please email york@menandfamilies.org